Jul 11, 2012 - "Phenomenal..."

I never miss my boyfriend's hockey games, not even when I'm sick. And sitting in an ice rink has not been a preference to remedy major headaches... but I go just the same.

Last night was no different, exhausted as I was. His housemate decided to join, so thirty minutes before the game, his housemate and I decided to grab a few more drinks at the bar around the corner... just the two of us. Two shots of Jameson. We really didn't need it to talk, or fill an awkward silence, frankly, he's just a real easy guy to get along with, and conversation is substantial, so finding something of relevance to talk about is easy.

Anyway, we get to talking about his relationship, and eventually he comments on mine with his good friend.

"... you guys are like a phenomenal couple. Seriously.... like really good together."

"... of all the girls he's dated, not that he's dated a lot, his other girlfriends were cordial/friendly, but they never made an effort to really get to know us. You really try to get to know me and Damon, and I appreciate that a lot. Since I've known him, and I've known him for a long time now... he's always looking for something... didn't settle... and now, it's like he's found what he's been looking for... whenever we talk, he doesn't have anything negative to say. I'm happy for him. He's had to deal with a lot of very difficult things in his past, so I'm really happy for him."

Hearing that from someone who my boyfriend considers one of his really good friends is very heart-warming. I do try to make an attempt to be a part of my boyfriend's life, and that doesn't always work for everyone, but for my boyfriend and his friends, that did. Getting the affirmation makes is extremely well worth it.

Jul 10, 2012 - Going to India

I never thought I'd have the opportunity to go to India. At least not this way. One of my best gal pals will be getting married next September, but her Indian celebrations will be this November...

Chances are, I may never have another opportunity to go to an Indian wedding and experience it in this manner. In India. If I can help it, I will make every attempt to go. So far, no dates have been set, but it's looking like anytime between 11/19 and 11/30...

... and if I go, I must make a list of places I want to see... yes, like the Taj Mahal.

- agra (taj mahal)

- new delhi

-jaipur

- bangalore

- back to chennai

(All photos courtesy of Wikipedia)


.... on another note, my boyfriend no longer is considering Japan for his sister's graduation. Strange turn of events. It's almost like he read my blog.... except I never gave him my blog address.


Notes of interest:


Indrail passes for international tourists - http://www.indianrail.gov.in/international_Tourist.html

Jul 2, 2012 - Thinking About Japan

I've known for a short while now that my boyfriend wants to take his younger sister to Japan for her high school graduation gift, just the two of them. When he first told me, I felt excluded. I eventually laid that sentiment to rest, because that's his time with his sister. They're close.

Recently, he's been revisiting our engagement, moving in together, and the rest of our lives. Just two weeks ago, he expressed his frustration over not knowing what to do. Financially he's at the point where he will be ready to move forward, but there are other things he also wants to do... and he's conflicted. I was upset, because, in my opinion, my importance is similar to that of a physical object.... again, after a day of feeling defeated, I let the sentiment go.

... until his Japan trip, those same sentiments came back. And, yes, it really sucks. 

I haven't quite wrapped my head around how I really feel, or how I want to deal with it....