I'm sure the following entry will be somewhat reminscent of what every girl has been through at some point in their life, if not throughout.
So let's begin.
I've been described as "flirty", "boy-crazy", "cold", "messed up", and some other terms I'm sure are relative to my boy encounters. I'm by no means young, but definitely not far enough along in life to say that I'm entirely experienced, but old enough to know maturity from immaturity. I have to admit that I did most of my growing up while I was still at the University, while everyone else was just starting to get all the partying into their system, I had somehow grown worn from having partied as much as I could handle in one summer's time.
I distinctly recall a conversation a friend and I had during the summer before my freshman year, he asked, "How many relationships have you had? You have a very extensive understanding...", at the age of 18, I had had none. Now about half a decade later, I have had many encounters with the opposite sex, and only one resulted in what I would consider a "serious relationship". And I'm sure everyone would expect me to be completely sheltered, and know little to nothing about the opposite sex, and my dealings with them, as a result, would be that of a 4th grader. Contrary to that belief, though, I am far from uneducated, and treat most with little respect, and am sympathetic to no one.
Maybe it was all the novels that I had read when I was younger, although holed in my house was my decision, I had very little contact with the opposite sex, and did not feel that I was missing out.
When my friends come to me with their boy/girl problems, I feel like a lot of them are so simple, so in your face, that it's just too easy to see what the solution is. Yet everyone seems to overthink every action they want to make. They overthink it, and when they do act upon an impulse, they realize that OMG I've just SCREWED it all up! Then they think, what could I have done differently, what SHOULD I have done differently, and truth is, nothing!
I'm not entirely exempt from this over obsessive disorder, but I have come to grips with it, and have embraced it. I have in a sense learned to be male when dealing with situations like it. It's a generalization to say that it is male, even sexist, but it has been in my experience that men deal with relationships in a far more relaxed manner. They don't seem to overthink any of their actions, and if things don't go as according to plan, they're not mulling around as though their life just ended. They move on, because the earth doesn't stop rotating because you've had one hang up!
I've often been bombarded with multiple relationship problems, and I find myself a little irritated at having to repeat the same advice again, and again, so instead of beating around the bush, as I would when I'm trying to comfort someone, I'd state an overly blunt fact, and tell them that although I am their close friend, I will tell them how it is, how anyone else would perceive it. Usually when my girls hear it for the first time, they feel a little alienated, almost as though I'm accusing them of whatever mistakes they have made, but then they come around, and it's all better. It's a cycle really, none of my friends have had serious relationships, and of the ones that do, have had no other experiences other than the ONE they've been in since high school.
I'm reasonable, I'm open to criticism, I'm dependable, I'm everything you'd want in a friend, but I'm also very frank, even if I don't mean to be, and I'm spontaneous, and pretty much as the horoscopes would tell you, I'm blunt, like you wouldn't believe, and to top that off, I'll give you a piece of my mind, if necessary.
HO-HO.
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