Tuesday, August 25

August 25, 2015

My life so far...

A little less than 3 months from my One-Year anniversary. Time flies!

You must be wondering what kept you busy? Well I have a not very good reason. In my mind, the few weeks, actually, let's just say bachelorette party onwards felt hectic and crazy. Can you believe there are actually people out there who envy pre-marital wedding planning? I sure don't. 

It's kind of crazy, but you know in the movies, after marriage usually comes a bundle of joy, or something equally profound and monumental. It hasn't really been like that. I don't yearn for a baby anymore than I did pre-marriage, and let's just say I was far from wanting one... ever. At least, not in the next few years. I'm 30, flirty and thriving, or so says Jennifer Garner. I'm actually wanting to go back to school just to sit in a classroom to flex my mental muscles. I want to get enough credits to sit for the CPA, and I want to eventually pass the exams. 

Plans versus Reality..... I find that there are some "societal norms" that I find myself falling into. Babies should definitely follow after marriage. I don't want them, but I definitely feel like I have an obligation to have them, and sometime soon, before my eggs get old. Old being the science backed age of 35. I am entering my early 30s, and already feel like there's not enough time between now and then to do everything I want and still have these babies before it's I'm too old. It would probably be more politically correct to say that I'm just not ready for babies, or as I've said to my family I'm not done being selfish yet. 

To get back to the point, so what have I been doing? That will probably have to wait until the next time. 

Friday, October 31

Oct 31, 2014

One full week out from the BIG day!

When I created this blog, I was transitioning from xanga... I wanted a space where I truly was anonymous, where my friends couldn't just follow me and share their thoughts about mine. Part of me was afraid to expose deeper truths, like keeping a personal diary. You don't really ever write for anyone else but yourself.. and that was what this was for me.

In recent past, I have thought to myself about how people from different corners of my life have been able to share thoughts, feelings, insecurities or even ideas that they confess have never shared with anyone else. It was a fleeting thought, but then I started to consciously question if maybe that has to do with the fact that I am an open sharer myself. I like to express my feelings, and sometimes when it (it being my feelings) becomes too much for my single soul to bear, I divulge to those around me who I think may be able to calm my nerves, provide a second/ third opinion, or just be that shoulder to listen without judgment. Maybe it's the very practice of sharing my own inner fears, anxieties, that the same people I have shared with are able to open up to me about their own.

As a culture that is becoming ever more reliant on technology, especially mobile technology, this thought made me wonder whether eventually we'll be unable to communicate. I'm self-proclaimed not any good with keeping a cell phone. I am bad at taking calls, bad at responding, and do not text to all too many people, I am probably non-existent in the insta-world, twittering community, and only hanging onto a thread of close friends/ family on facebook and linkedin, because I don't believe in over-sharing, or even providing the internet (the world) with intimate views into my personal life. Maybe this conscious effort to maintain a life outside of the web, enables me to communicate better.